Trust and Friendship
Friendship
Having friends is important – they are people you can laugh with, talk to, confide in and support each other.
When you fall out with your friends it can make you sad. If you have had a falling out with your friends you could try and talk to them and explain how sad this is making you feel.
If you have upset them then saying ‘sorry’ is important too and listening to how they feel.
If you fall out with your friends give yourselves time to calm down, think about why you fell out in the first place and what you think may be ways to mend the friendship.
Some people find it easier to make friends than other people but there are things you can do to help you make friends and feel more confident.
You could;
Look people in the eye and smile - the friendlier you are the easier it’s going to be for them to come back and be nice to you too.
Join a club or team at your school or in the community. This will give you the chance to make lots of friends and meet new people.
Making friends takes time to build up a relationship no matter who you are!
Sometimes our friends feel sad and/or worried which can make you feel upset too. If you have a friend that is upset or worried and you want to help you could:
- Try and talk to your friend and ask them to tell you what is wrong.
- Don't be upset if they don't want to talk to you. It might be very difficult for them to speak about what is wrong, especially if they are scared or worried about what will happen if they tell you or anybody else.
- If they don't want to talk to you, suggest that they talk to a teacher or someone else they trust
- If you think your friend might be in danger or are really worried about them, you could tell an adult, such as a parent or teacher, about the problem, even if your friend doesn't want to talk to anyone.
Trust
Like any relationship developing trust with your friends is very important.There are lots of things you can do to be a trustworthy person such as:
Being honest with your friends and family.
Be a reliable person – if you make a promise or commitment and can’t keep it let the person know
Having courage – even when it may be really difficult. Have the courage to say ‘no’ in situations that you know are wrong or that make you feel uncomfortable or scared. If you or a friend is in a situation that is making you worry or feel scared have the courage to tell an adult you trust what is happening and let them help you or your friend. It is ok to ask for help
Consider your friends feelings
Listen to other people’s opinions and thoughts. Just because their opinion is different to yours doesn’t mean it is wrong
Think about how your actions can impact others
Do not bully others or exclude them from groups, games or parties
Respect your friends
Listen to your friends. If they have problems do your best to help them solve it. If it is beyond what you can do for them have your own courage to find someone who can help
Sharing with other people
Say ‘Thank you’ to your friends when they do something to help you – it’s always nice to hear!
